You all already know I got great love for Taiye Selasi!

She shared this life lesson on her IG page few weeks ago. An “inspiration” she got from a dead tree.

And so in the spirit of “WOMAN CRUSH WEDNESDAY” + “WISDOM WEDNESDAY”, I thought to share and Inspire you!

Photo 2

I went to the plant store to buy a tree. How tall, I was asked. Two meters, I said. None of the options were under €1,000.

“Mature trees” require mature money, I learned. Defeated, I was walking to our car when I saw her in the parking lot. She was lying on the asphalt, roots splayed out. A tangle of snakes. Unnerving. What happened to her, I asked. (For me all plants are she.) The attendant shrugged. We needed the pot for a healthier tree. I asked is she dead? He said on her way. I asked how much? He laughed: For what? Did I really want a dead tree? (I did.) I could have it for a song if I would buy a pot. (I would.)

I brought her home and placed her on the terrace, as recommended. Even the few leaves you see in Photo 1 blew away. @herrglass came to visit. Remarked in his sonorous baritone, “A dead tree. Sculptural. I like.” I despaired. I brought her inside for the dignity of a home death. She lived. And taught me this:

First: { see photo 2 }

Cut off the dead branches. All of them. If it’s not living let it go. If it once lived but has now gone dry and is just diverting good water from growing leaves: let it go. Dead branches, dead friendships, dead habits, dead beliefs, dead projects…Trim away. Direct your water, your time, your energy, your love to the leaves that live. No hard feelings, Nature knows. Dry branches must go. (But keep an eye out for the littlest buds. Fragile, pale pale green. Some things seem dead—as she did—but given love, light, time, time, time, time, time grow back.)

Photo 3

Second: { see photo 3 }

Find the spot—the geographical location—that will best nurture your growth. I was told to put her outside. Her leaves fell off. I brought her in. She flourished. Everyone loves Berlin. I tried. Couldn’t. Dried. Wilted. Moved my pot to a new spot (in the ☀️). And grew new leaves.🌳

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